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As leaders, there are some things that we just forget to say or that we somehow don’t think we need to or should say. That’s a mistake. In her article on the Inc. site Maria Tabaka lists four statements that she has found to be powerful and necessary.

1. I’m sorry

2. I was wrong

3. I need help

4. I don’t know

These seem pretty simple and obvious right? Yet, somehow they are difficult for us to use sometimes, especially when we are the leader.

If you are not using these simple words on a regular basis, maybe it’s time to find out why and then to start using them. They are powerful.

Blessings,
BG

Good morning! I am traveling some this week and having the pleasure of being part of a team that is coming alongside an stream Niles 2013organization that is doing good in the inner city helping them to better manage their organization. Great group of folks. I am writing this sitting on the side of a hotel bed – not the best way to write!

Communication among people is an art and a science and one that is so hard for us to master. Within an organization it gets even more complex. I have found that within an organization you can have people who have good relationships and a fairly strong informal communication process, but you still suffer because there is a weak formal system of communication.

As a leader, you need to establish a robust formal system of communication within your organization. Some things to consider are:

1. Frequency and regularity – people need to be communicated with more often that we as leaders often want to do so. They also need to know that the formal communication will be regular and reliable. If you are supposed to have some type of information meeting every Friday – do it and don’t skip a meeting. Especially don’t skip several meetings.

2. Remember that each of us don’t take in information the same way, some prefer to hear it, some read it, and so on. Therefore, you need to ensure that you are taking advantage of the many and varied mediums or channels that are available to us to communicate more effectively.

3. Say it and then repeat it at least seven times in various fashions. Just because you understand it doesn’t mean your team understands. Research shows that you need to repeat something important at least seven times for people to start geting it. So repeat yourself often and do so in various communication channels.

Be intentional and set up robust formal communication processes to keep your team informed. It is critical to the success of your organization.

Have a great Wednesday!
BG

Good morning! Getting a bit nippy here in northeast Indiana.

Listening well is a skill and one many of us have yet to master. It is a weakness of mine that God has convicted me of so I am trying to develop this critical skill. Fortunately Ambassador not only places a great value on this skill, they also teach you how to listen.

One tool they have is the four components of effective listening. (click here to read Ambassador’s article on this subject)

  1. To hear is to focus all of my senses on what the speaker is communicating, making it as easy as possible for him to say what he means and to have confidence in my full attention.
  2. To understand is to comprehend what the speaker means. This has nothing to do with evaluation or agreement; that comes later. I should be able to communicate back what they said to their satisfaction.
  3. To consider is to evaluate what difference his input should make in what I feel, think, or do.
  4. To give feedback is to expose how I will consider her input and to express appreciation for it. This can be done immediately, even before I have had time to thoroughly consider all of the implications of the input. Later, I can expose how I have incorporated it into my thinking and what I have done or will do as a result.

Start incorporating these four components into your listening and see how much more effective you become.

Have a great week serving our Lord!
BG

Are you a good listener? Personally I struggle with being a good listener. I am much better than I was, but still not that good. So, I am trying to learn how to listen.

Do you ever have the problem of preparing what you are about to say while the other person is still talking? Do you ever go into a conversation completely sure of your position and instead of having a conversation, you and the other person are just trading statements? So how do we become better listeners?

We begin with a key concept – humility. Yep – humility. It is key to us being able to truly listen to another person. Check out this article on listening on Ambassador’s Engage site:

Humility says:

  • My perspective is incomplete (wrong) and I need others to complete it.
  • You and your communication have value.
  • Your message is worthy of being understood.
  •  I cannot judge the value of your message until I understand it.
  • I do not understand your message until you say I do.

So, to truly listen to someone as you seek understanding, the place to begin is with a humble attitude. Practicing humility will make you a better listener.

BG

Good lists are fun and helpful and I have a great little book called Lists To Live By, The Third Collection.

One of the lists gives six things you need to do so that people will listen when you speak.

1. Be clear.

2. Be Concise

3. Be Considerate

4. Be Consistent

5. Be Comfortable

6. Be Credible

A good list to think about as you communicate with others.  At the root of all six is the focus on the other person.  Are you interested in them and truly communicating?

BG

Buzz Word Bingo

February 16, 2012

A few days ago, I posted about the “Blah Blahometer” where we were talking about speaking with clarity.  In ministry, we have our own “lingo” replete with buzz words that have little or no meaning, but still impress.

Following is a video from IBM on “Buzz Word Bingo“.  It is short – watch and see if you see yourself or your organization in the video.

 Blessings on your day!

BG

Have you ever had a situation in which you felt you were correct in what you said, but not so sure about the manner in which you said it or in the words you chose?  I have had that happen to me recently, so I was really convicted when I read today’s devotional from “Lead Like Jesus” where they address the impact of a leader’s word.  Following is the devotional.

“Poorly chosen words can cause confusion and strife. When those words come from the lips of a leader, the tension is magnified. Scripture is clear that we are responsible for our actions and words. When our words cause misunderstandings, it is our duty to humble ourselves and try to make things right. A humble heart and a sincere appeal will go far to make amends.

If you have been trapped by what you said, ensnared by the words of your mouth, then do this, my son, to free yourself, since you have fallen into your neighbor’s hands: Go and humble yourself; press your plea with your neighbor! Proverbs 6:2-3

Prayer: Dear Lord, so many times I speak before I think it through. Please forgive me. I know this causes problems and misunderstandings for those around me. I ask for Your help in this area. Give me courage to humble myself, admit my mistakes and make things right with those I have mislead. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!”

Remember, that your words as a leader have a great impact on those around you, so please choose your words with care and be aware of their impact.

Hope it is a great week for you!

BG