Change the Narrative

Merriam-Webster refers to resilience as an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change. An ability to roll with the punches, according to Mayo Clinic. My understanding of resilience prior to this week was that it was something that people were just gifted with, like good eyesight or height. You either had it or you didn’t. Yet, in researching resilience I have learned that isn’t the case. Sure, some people tend to be more resilient because they are naturally optimistic. But what I have found is that resilience is a skill, something that can be honed.

Resilience is not some magical quality; it takes real mental work to transcend hardship. There’s growing evidence that the elements of resilience can be cultivated.

A perfect example of resilience is Kendrick Norton, a former Miami Dolphins defensive tackle. July 4th of this year Kendrick was driving his Ford F250 when it hit a concrete barrier and landed on its roof, his left arm pinned by the truck had to be amputated above the elbow. In a recently released video Kendrick said, “You’re still alive, don’t be angry. You’ll get better,” he continued. “I’m trying to handle it the best I can. Don’t be down about it ’cause that’s not gonna fix anything.”

And here’s the key phrase that he says, that perfectly sums up resilience: “Though the injury was far from ideal, especially as a professional football player, Norton said he was never in denial about it and instead, changed his outlook on the situation.” Kendrick changed his outlook, he reframed his thinking. “How we view adversity and stress strongly affects how we succeed, and this is one of the most important reasons that having a resilient mindset is so important. (1)” The Greater Good Science Center has collected many resilience practices on their website, they have identified 12 resilience practices combined into five categories. The number one practice is change the narrative. Kendrick changed the narrative. His NFL career over at 22 before even playing a game was most likely a devastating experience. But this is what Kendrick has said, “But I realize that I will not be able to play for anyone. We are working past that, you know. That reality is sinking in. I am alive and I am grateful. Now I want to organize a blood drive.”

He changed his thinking to one of gratitude, grateful to be alive. He is actively practicing the skill of resilience. And so can you, you have it within you. I’ll leave you with this last thought.

Resilience isn’t a single skill. It’s a variety of skills and coping mechanisms. To bounce back from bumps in the road as well as failures, you should focus on emphasizing the positive.” Jean Chatzky

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“Not Taking Risks Is the Riskiest Career Move of All” – Harvard Business Review

This is an excellent article from Harvard Business Review that illustrates how important it is for you to take responsibility for your career and job security. Here are the first two paragraphs from the article:

Mark was a survivor. Until he was fired in 2012, six months shy of his 50thbirthday, he’d done everything right — rising through the ranks of the book publishing industry, from editorial assistant to associate editor to senior editor, then into management as an editor-in-chief. But as e-books and Amazon destabilized the industry, and waves of consolidation contracted available jobs, Mark (not his real name) admits today that he hadn’t “paid attention to the writing on the wall.” He confessed that he’d spent the 18 months prior to being fired living in denial as his team was reorganized. “Despite that,” he says, “I clung to my job rather than start thinking about how to leave. At that point, I couldn’t conceive of a life outside of the confines of corporate publishing, of not being at the center of the club I’d been a part of — and a star in — since the age of 21.”

Mark’s story is a cautionary tale for us all. In my experience, Mark’s kind of wishful thinking — that things will sort themselves out on their own — rarely works out. Not taking action has costs that can be as consequential as taking risks; it’s simply less natural to calculate and pay attention to the “what-ifs” of inaction. In today’s marketplace, where jobs and job categories are being destroyed and invented at an accelerating rate, I’d argue that the riskiest move one can make is to assume that your industry or job is secure. Just ask former employees of Countrywide, British Petroleum, or Newsweek if you doubt me. Former Chief Talent Officer of Netflix, Patty McCord, says that companies should stop lying to people about their job security, because there’s simply no such thing.

You have to be actively managing your career and not leave that to others – in the nonprofit world just as much as in the for profit world.

Read the rest of the article by clicking here.

Take responsibility for your life in a proactive and intentional manner!

BG

 

The Top 3 “Excuses for Not Chasing Your Dream (and Why It All Comes Down to Fear)” – Jeff Goins

http://goinswriter.com/excuses/

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too busy to ponder?

2014 Sprin Flowers at Brown GablesGood morning! It’s finally getting Spring here in NE Indiana!! Flowers starting to bloom and a mallard walking around in the yard.

Question for you – how much time do you actually spend thinking about the important things? I mean actually thinking, reflecting, meditating, or pondering on the important issues in your life and in life in general?

I am inclined to thinking because of my personality. However, I am also a collector of information and the Internet is like a treasure chest to me! I can collect a vast amount of information. However, I have noticed that when I begin indulging my desire to collect information, I neglect thinking. I forget to consider the “why” behind things. I forget to think about how things connect.

I may have more information now, but I am less wise.

So, I have some questions that might warrant pondering:

1. Do you know what you really believe? Not what are the opinions of others that you might have adopted, but what do you really believe?

2. Do you know why you believe what you do?

3. If so, can you articulate well what you believe and why you believe it?

If you can answer question number 3 – “yes” and “yes”, then you will begin to have a profound impact on others.

If you can’t, you might want to spend some time pondering.

Have a great week!

BG

 

is the internet reshaping your brain?

theshallows_custom-s6-c30What do you think? Are your reading habits changing because of the Internet? Have you noticed that where you once could sit down and enjoy a lengthy article or large portions of a book that now you quickly get bored and want something different? Are you as able to think deeply and at length about a subject or do you find it harder to sustain your thinking?

In his book The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains , Nicholas Carr says Yes!, the Internet is impacting the way we think. Read these quotes from the Amazon description of the book: 

“As we enjoy the Net’s bounties, are we sacrificing our ability to read and think deeply? . . . Our brains, the historical and scientific evidence reveals, change in response to our experiences. The technologies we use to find, store, and share information can literally reroute our neural pathways. . . Carr makes a convincing case that every information technology carries an intellectual ethic—a set of assumptions about the nature of knowledge and intelligence. He explains how the printed book served to focus our attention, promoting deep and creative thought. In stark contrast, the Internet encourages the rapid, distracted sampling of small bits of information from many sources. Its ethic is that of the industrialist, an ethic of speed and efficiency, of optimized production and consumption—and now the Net is remaking us in its own image. We are becoming ever more adept at scanning and skimming, but what we are losing is our capacity for concentration, contemplation, and reflection. “

Also, read Michael Hyatt’s blog post on the subject.

Take a minute and think about how your thinking has changed since you started using the Internet. I am not an advocate of not using the Internet at all, but I wonder if I do need to review how much time I am spending skimming over this rich well of information and maybe spend more time in good books and complex articles.

The Internet is part of our lives now, but the question for me is – is the Internet a tool I use well or is it my master and shapes my thinking?

What do you think? How do you manage the impact of the Internet on your life?

BG

A MBTI Infographic from the “Career Assessment Site”

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Source: Career Assessment Site: http://careerassessmentsite.com/

SOURCE: Career Assessment Site: http://careerassessmentsite.com/

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where do you learn?

beautiful shies“A school is wherever a man can learn, Mr. Shafter, do not forget that. A man can learn from these mountains and the trees, he can learn by listening, by seeing, and by hearing the talk of other men and thinking about what they say.”

– L’Amour, Angelique (2010-12-01). A Trail of Memories: The Quotations Of Louis L’Amour (Kindle Locations 728-730). Random House Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

quotes on learning from Louis L’Amour

Louis L’Amour was and is one of my favorite authors. He was a man with a love for learning and it permeated all of his books. Following are a few of his quotes on learning that I particularly like. As you read his comments, maybe you can take time to reflect on your own attitude towards learning. Do you have a hunger for learning? Does the complexity and beauty of God’s creation cause you amazement and wonder?

“A mind, like a home, is furnished by its owner, so if one’s life is cold and bare he can blame none but himself. You have a chance to select from some pretty elegant furnishings.

… I seek when I can the company of others who learn, for who knows when my knowledge combined with theirs might prove the answer? Each man learns a little, but the sum of their knowledge can be great. 

Sometimes I wonder if anything is ever ended. The words a man speaks today live on in his thoughts or the memories of others, and the shot fired, the blow struck, the thing done today is like a stone tossed into a pool and the ripples keep widening out until they touch lives far from ours.”

L’Amour, Angelique (2010-12-01). A Trail of Memories: The Quotations Of Louis L’Amour. Random House Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.