Archives For Choices

do you have the right focus?

November 27, 2017

Do you have the right focus? This is a question I struggle with, as so often, when my focus is off, it can lead me down paths that are not helpful.

Basically it comes down to is our focus on what we have or what we don’t have?

A focus on ourselves and what we don’t have often leads to discontentment, resentment, bitterness, and a “takers” type mentality.

A focus on others and how we have been been blessed often leads to gratitude, contentment, fulfillment, joy, and a “givers” mentality.

The thing is – it is a simple choice as to what attitude you adopt. What is your choice today?


This is an excellent article from Harvard Business Review that illustrates how important it is for you to take responsibility for your career and job security. Here are the first two paragraphs from the article:

Mark was a survivor. Until he was fired in 2012, six months shy of his 50thbirthday, he’d done everything right — rising through the ranks of the book publishing industry, from editorial assistant to associate editor to senior editor, then into management as an editor-in-chief. But as e-books and Amazon destabilized the industry, and waves of consolidation contracted available jobs, Mark (not his real name) admits today that he hadn’t “paid attention to the writing on the wall.” He confessed that he’d spent the 18 months prior to being fired living in denial as his team was reorganized. “Despite that,” he says, “I clung to my job rather than start thinking about how to leave. At that point, I couldn’t conceive of a life outside of the confines of corporate publishing, of not being at the center of the club I’d been a part of — and a star in — since the age of 21.”

Mark’s story is a cautionary tale for us all. In my experience, Mark’s kind of wishful thinking — that things will sort themselves out on their own — rarely works out. Not taking action has costs that can be as consequential as taking risks; it’s simply less natural to calculate and pay attention to the “what-ifs” of inaction. In today’s marketplace, where jobs and job categories are being destroyed and invented at an accelerating rate, I’d argue that the riskiest move one can make is to assume that your industry or job is secure. Just ask former employees of Countrywide, British Petroleum, or Newsweek if you doubt me. Former Chief Talent Officer of Netflix, Patty McCord, says that companies should stop lying to people about their job security, because there’s simply no such thing.

You have to be actively managing your career and not leave that to others – in the nonprofit world just as much as in the for profit world.

Read the rest of the article by clicking here.

Take responsibility for your life in a proactive and intentional manner!



“What if we stopped celebrating being busy as a measurement of importance?”

Greg McKeown in Essentialism

“What if we sto…

We often think that we are powerless, that we are subject to the vagaries of our situation, that we are simply being swept along by the current of our lives like so much flotsam.

It is your choice.001That is bad thinking – that is wrong thinking. We have choices, in fact we have many, many choices.

– We can choose our attitude – no matter the circumstance

– We can choose how we react to situations

– We can choose joy

– We can choose to fight for what is right

– We can choose to confront injustice

– We can choose to show mercy

– We can choose to be grateful

– We can choose to see what is good and beautiful in other people

– We can choose to treat others with kindness and consideration

– We can choose to lead well

– We can choose to do the right thing – even when it is hard

– We can choose to change

– We can choose to forgive and love – even when we don’t want to

– We can choose the path of humility even though the world tells you to be proud

– We can choose to serve the poor, the broken-hearted, the devastated, the lost

– We can choose to hold up the arms of the weary

You, and I, can choose either to continue to float down the river of our lives like so much deadwood, or we can choose to make a real difference in the lives of others. We can choose to change.

You can choose – what do you choose this day?


“Your Choice”

choices to make today

April 25, 2014

black-eyed susans

Today you have some choices to make:

1. What attitude/mindset will you choose today?

2. How will you choose to view and treat others around you?

3. What will you work on today? Meaningful but difficult projects or the easier (and plentiful) tasks on your to-do-list?

4. Will you choose to focus solely on tasks or will you choose to spend some time today building and strengthening relationships?

5. Will you choose to help someone today that can’t help you?

5. How will you choose to react to difficult circumstances?

7. Will you choose to grow today?

How today goes is your choice. As  my wife tells our daughters, “Make good choices.”

Have a great weekend!


It Is Your Choice

February 8, 2013

Question – what is your choice today? About your attitude and view of life?Lauren - winter sun

You can either approach the day with a sour face muttering “why me?” or you can choose joy.

As a people who are in Christ our choice should be joy, but too often it isn’t. What I have found personally is that when I am the most down, the most sour, the most irritable, is when I am preoccupied with myself.

When I am preoccupied with Christ and others, I tend to be much more joyful. I also have discovered that in my case, it is simply a mater of choice.

So today, I choose joy. What do you choose?

Have a great weekend and spread some joy!

Do You Have These 5 Regrets?

December 19, 2012

Good morning. Great day yesterday with the Senior Leadership Team of Life Action Ministries. A great team and a great ministry!Christmas decorations - Lauren

Do you have any regrets in regards to your vocational life? Have you made decisions for the right reasons?



According to this Harvard Business Review online article, there are five main regrets that people have in regards to their careers:

1. I wish I hadn’t taken the job for the money. – Money is actually only a hygiene factor and not a true motivator. For true job satisfaction, do something that matters to you and that makes a difference.

2. I wish I had quit earlier. – If you are not passionate about what you are doing, then find that passion and pursue it. Sooner rather than later.

3. I wish I had the confidence to start my own business. – If you truly desire to do this and are willing to work really hard, then learn it, gather great advisers around you and go do it.

4. I wish I had used my time at school more productively. – Self explanatory!

5. I wish I had acted on my career hunches. – Most of the time, it is fear that keeps us from acting on unexpected opportunities in our lives. Don’t let fear hinder you growth and development.

So, what are your regrets in regards to your vocational choices?

Have a great Wednesday!



No versus Yes

March 1, 2012

Do you feel harried, frustrated, scattered and wish your life was simpler and more focused?

Could the problem be your choice between two very small but very powerful words?

Often when we say Yes to something, we are speaking out of a desire to please others or out of fear of displeasing others.  We say yes, because of peer pressure or pressure from our culture.  And because of these things when we say Yes, we often are going against the true priorities in our lives and even our convictions. Often our yes comes from a “fear of man“.

When we say No, it is often based on our convictions.  It takes a lot of courage to say No to a good thing that is not the best thing especially.

So maybe, the reason you are harried, frustrated, and depleted is simply because you haven’t learned how to use that tiny word No in accordance with your priorities and convictions.

Make decisions in accordance with God’s calling on your life, your convictions, your priorities – not on the “fear of man“.