do you have the right focus?

Do you have the right focus? This is a question I struggle with, as so often, when my focus is off, it can lead me down paths that are not helpful.

Basically it comes down to is our focus on what we have or what we don’t have?

A focus on ourselves and what we don’t have often leads to discontentment, resentment, bitterness, and a “takers” type mentality.

A focus on others and how we have been been blessed often leads to gratitude, contentment, fulfillment, joy, and a “givers” mentality.

The thing is – it is a simple choice as to what attitude you adopt. What is your choice today?


“When was the last time you were excited about your life?”

When was the last time you were excited about your life? Are you physically healthy? Are your relationships healthy?

The pace of life can overwhelm us sometimes – especially when we don’t plan. Watch this video as Greg Salciccioli talks about the power of a personal plan.

the pursuit of personal peace


Today is a guest post from someone very special to me – Lauren Allen, the oldest of our two daughters. “Listen” to what she has to say about something many of us are pursuing – Peace.

Peace…the very word elicits a sense of calm and reminds us to take a deep breath. Peace as defined in Merriam-Webster is a state of tranquility or quiet.

As I write this I am sitting outside on a glorious day, 66 degrees with a slight wind, and to top it all of it’s the beginning of a 3-day weekend. All of these smack of peace.

My question for you is: how do you pursue peace in your own life? In the middle of a busy week with looming deadlines and family obligations, are you at peace? Even better-after a long week if you were to stop and sit, would you be at peace? If peace is a state of tranquility and state means a way of living, are you living at peace? Right now I am not speaking to whether or not you are at peace with people but are you at peace with yourself?

I follow a lot of blogs and at the beginning of the year many of them were picking a word for 2014. Now, I usually run the opposite way when there is a band wagon but this one resonated with me. After wracking my brain for a while I found my word….peace! The last two years of my life have been wrought with anxiety and I have worked so hard to fight the anxiety in my life; I fought it so hard that I had allowed it to control my life.

How do I practice peace? I seek peace personally by assuming all blame and deflecting all blame. Let me explain that paradox.

On most days, I have an excuse for everything, as such I can explain every bad decision or rude comment I make. This, at the base of it, allows me to not be at fault. Yet in the process I can weary people and even cause them to not trust me. In my desire for peace and my belief that people are so vastly important, I have taught myself (note: still teaching) to not come up with an excuse; I need to own my mistakes, even ones with valid explanations.

I also deflect all blame, this may be more for my sanity than actually being nice to people. If someone cuts me off in traffic I automatically think they didn’t see me or their first child is being born and need to get to the hospital. If someone is rude to me at work I try to remember their home life, maybe their kids are a rough week or maybe it’s the anniversary of their spouse’s/kid’s death. In these actions I am made aware that life is so much more encompassing than me alone. This eliminates a great deal of hurt feelings/anger/etc. that threaten the balance of peace in my life that I strive for.

Another thing I do is go on walks outside, especially when I am at work. My office is located on a beautiful property in Southwestern Michigan with many walking trails, which is perfect for exploring. For me personally, being outside calms me down immensely. The beauty of creation reminds me of the Lord’s care for me as well as reminding me that no matter what is going on in my life and the world-the grass will continue to grow, the birds and frogs will live…and life will go on.

I suggest that you do one thing today, at least, that brings you peace. Whether that is a good cup of coffee, a walk outside, a nap, a good book-whatever it may be.

The practice of peace, begets peace.

Lauren Allen  

do you want more calm in your life?

. . . what I have argued for, is to make the terrain we live in a little more familiar, slower, quieter, and peaceful. If I could pour calm in my pots I would. If by them I could make people a little happier, feel a little more as friends and family, or be a little more tied to community and God, then I would. – Ron Newsome

This quote comes from my cousin’s husband who is one of the most at peace people I have met over the years. He is a former helicopter pilot that served in Vietnam and now he and my cousin live in a beautiful part of east Alabama and he makes beautiful and very functional pottery (check out his Facebook page here).

“If I could pour calm into my pots I would.” What a thought. He, like many of us, realizes that a good dose of calm is what most of us need. We often live frenzied lives rushing from one thing to another and not even noticing the people around us nor the wonders and beauty of God’s creation all around us. What is worse, all that frenzied running around produces little but stress, anxiety, shallow relationships, and a deep sense of discontentment in our lives as we know something is not quite right.So why do we do this to ourselves? Pride, trying to please or impress others, the expectations of our culture, or maybe sometimes we just don’t know how to live a life of peace.

Now, don’t get me wrong, having peace in your life is not about retreating from life. It is more about choices. It is about centering your life on Christ and resting in him. It is about noticing and engaging with the people around you and truly building community. It is about looking on God’s creation with wonder and amazement at His creativity. It is about creating margin in your life. One of the best ways to start developing that sense of contentment is to first take your eyes off of yourself and place them on the Lord and others. It is amazing how things change when you change your perspective.

So, why not change? What is all this frenzied running about really gotten you so far? What is stopping you?

Now, one of my favorite closings of Paul’s epistles:

“The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holt Spirit be with you all.” 2 Corinthians 13:14