choose wisely

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Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” – Proverbs 13:20 (ESV)

Choose wisely the people you spend time with as they shape you whether you are aware of that happening or not.

If you choose well, these people will help you become a better person. If you choose only people that don’t challenge you to be better, that don’t challenge you to set higher standards, that don’t speak truth to you – you will become something less and you definitely will not grow as a person.

Choose wise people that will speak truth to you so that you can grow and become even better.

challenges of life

Solving the challenges in your life requires a deep understanding of what causes what to happen.

Christensen, Clayton M.. How Will You Measure Your Life? (p. 16). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

we have a choice in how we respond

What controls how you respond to circumstances? Your emotions or your beliefs?

You know, we do have a choice in how we respond to the ever changing circumstances of life.

Make that choice!

capitalization learning vs. compensation learning

David and Goliath book coverGood morning – I hope your week is getting off to a great start. It was a very nice weekend for our family. Beautiful weekend and we were able to have some enjoyable times together.

In his book David and Goliath, Malcolm Gladwell makes the distinction between what he calls capitalization learning versus compensation learning. Capitalization learning is what most of us really enjoy. It is learning that is building on our natural strengths. He gives the example of Tiger Woods – he found that golf suited him, so he enjoyed practice so he became better at golf and practiced more and became even better and so on. It became a virtuous cycle.

Now there is the compensation learning that comes from what Gladwell calls a desirable difficulty. A desirable difficulty is a challenge that requires you to grow to overcome that challenge in ways that are beneficial to your overall life. One that he mentions is dyslexia. In his book he gives several examples of people, that because of the lessons they learned in dealing with dyslexia, they surpassed many other “normal” people in regards to success in life.

These people succeeded because they have learned the value of compensation learning. Compensation learning is hard work. It is usually learning that occurs in our areas of weakness – not our strengths. We become aware of a weakness in our lives so we set about compensation learning to deal with that weakness. As it is hard work, often very hard work, most of us avoid it and thus miss out on our potential. I like the following quote from the book:

“. . . those who can are better off than they would have been otherwise, because what is learned out of necessity is inevitably more powerful than the learning that comes easily.”

So – what is it that you need to learn to have greater impact, but that you are avoiding because it is hard? Start engaging in learning what is hard for you so that you will grow into even greater effectiveness and thus greater impact.

Have a great week!

Top 10 Posts for 2012

Well, we are coming to the close of 2012. I hope this has been a year of growth in your life. Growth in your faith, growth in your family relationships, growth in your community, growth in your character and growth in the vocation to which you were called.Indiana winter by Lauren

More and more of you are reading this little blog and often I wonder why, but thank you for returning and reading what little I have to share with you. My prayer is that it has been of some use to you as you seek to lead others and to bring change to the community in which you live.

Following are the ten blog posts you liked the most over the past year in order:

1. Be-Know-Do, The Army’s Leadership Model

2. Four Stages of the Creative Process

3. Seven Principles from “The Way of the Shepherd”

4. The Business Model Canvas

5. Six Questions You Should Be Able to Answer

6. How to Pitch Your Ideas to Your Boss so They Get Implemented

7. 90 Minutes of Focus = Greater Productivity

8. Questions to Ask Leaders

9. Servantship vs. Leadership – what is the difference?

10. Being Kind vs. Being Nice

I hope that 2013 is a year of great growth and impact for you and those you lead and serve.

One bit of Scripture I leave you today:

I [Paul] therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit – just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call – one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.” Ephesians 4:1-6

Grace and peace to you in His name in 2013,