“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” – Proverbs 13:20 (ESV)
Choose wisely the people you spend time with as they shape you whether you are aware of that happening or not.
If you choose well, these people will help you become a better person. If you choose only people that don’t challenge you to be better, that don’t challenge you to set higher standards, that don’t speak truth to you – you will become something less and you definitely will not grow as a person.
Choose wise people that will speak truth to you so that you can grow and become even better.
Why have you been so successful in reaching some of your goals, but not others? If you aren’t sure, you are far from alone in your confusion. It turns out that even brilliant, highly accomplished people are pretty lousy when it comes to understanding why they succeed or fail. The intuitive answer — that you are born predisposed to certain talents and lacking in others — is really just one small piece of the puzzle. In fact, decades of research on achievement suggests that successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do.
“A school is wherever a man can learn, Mr. Shafter, do not forget that. A man can learn from these mountains and the trees, he can learn by listening, by seeing, and by hearing the talk of other men and thinking about what they say.”
– L’Amour, Angelique (2010-12-01). A Trail of Memories: The Quotations Of Louis L’Amour (Kindle Locations 728-730). Random House Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.
I hope you had a blessed Christmas celebrating the birth of our Lord and Savior – Jesus the Christ. We have minimized the use of technology over the last few days but I thought time to get up another post.
I read something interesting this morning on the Harvard Business Review website (this is a great resource by the way if you are in leadership, whether it be business, non-profit or a church). The article is on things people wished their boss (leader) would stop doing and some sound very familiar. When I have asked people directly how I could be a better boss, some of these very things came up in the discussion. So here is the list from the HBR article:
1. Don’t obfuscate; tell it like it is. – People, especially the Gen Y crowd, want to know where they stand. They want to know what they need to do to get better.
2. Stop telling me what I know. – They want to be coached and taught and then given freedom to do the job. One quote was “Coach me, enable me, support me”.
3. Don’t stray; walk the talk. – Pretty straight forward. Be a person of integrity. Ensure your actions are consistent with your words. People are looking for role models and they are proving difficult to find. When I was at Life Action Ministries, we called this having a Life Message.*
4. Stop playing favorites. – Again, self-evident, but so many of us are guilty of rewarding people for the wrong reasons.
5. Don’t be a boss, be a leader. – There was an unmistakable call for appreciative, empathetic, respect-worthy leaders. One person said “A boss inspires fear, a leader inspires enthusiasm.”
Some good points. Take some time and ask your team members what it is that you need to stop doing in order to become a better leader of your team. Not very easy to do. Also, when you ask and they tell you – resist the incredibly strong desire you will have to defend yourself. Defending yourself is of no value. Just listen and learn and become a better leader.
Hope you have a great Wednesday! BG
* Life Message
1 Thessalonians 1:5; 2:10
Someone has said, “A message prepared in a mind reaches minds; a message prepared in a heart reaches hearts; but a message prepared in a life reaches and changes lives.” The power of God to change lives is released through the truth of God’s Word illustrated in lives. Therefore our lives must be living demonstrations of the reality and the truths of His Word.
Good Monday morning! I hope you had a great weekend.
Have you thought about the difference in leadership skills? Such as the difference between the skills that got you the leadership position versus the ones that will make you a great leader? Did you know there was a difference?
The challenge as leaders is that often after we are placed into a leadership position we think we don’t have to keep learning and growing. We have arrived and we just need to put into practice what got us here – right? No, not hardly. Once you land in a leadership position – that is when “school” starts. You have to learn a whole new set of skills to become a truly effective leader.
According to the authors of Leadership 2.0, most of us have a Core set of leadership skills that got us the leadership job: 1.STRATEGY: Vision, Acumen, Planning, and Courage to Lead.2. ACTION:Decision Making, Communication, and Mobilizing Others, and3. RESULTS: Risk Taking, Results Focus, and Agility.
However, they go on to say that the truly great leaders have Adaptive leadership skills consisting of: 1. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE:Self-Awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness, and Relationship Management. 2. ORGANIZATIONAL JUSTICE:Decision Fairness, Information Sharing and Outcome Concern.3. CHARACTER:Integrity, Credibility, and Values Differences, and 4. DEVELOPMENT: Lifelong Learner and Developing Others.
Most of us struggle with just the core leadership skills and so often do not learn the adaptive skills. If you want to really make great impact on the world around you, then you need to add the adaptive leadership skills to your toolbox.
Good morning! Here at Ambassador Enterprises, one of the key emphases is growth in all areas of your life. Reflecting on that caused me to remember this post on a great little book by Ken Blanchard – Great Leaders Grow. So here is the post I did on the book last year.
Leaders are learners and personal growth is a way of life for them.
In their book Great Leaders Grow, Ken Blanchard and Mark Miller use the word GROW as an acronym to give you a pattern for growing as a leader.
G – Gain Knowledge
* About yourself
* About others (learn their stories)
* About your industry / profession
* About leadership
R – Reach Out To Others
O – Open Your World
* Gain new experiences at work
* Gain new experiences outside of work
Good morning – we sure are needing some rain here in southwest Michigan!
As the book of Proverbs has 31 chapters I often enjoy reading the “Proverb of the day”. In chapter 18 today is something that really strikes me:
“A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.”
I so often am more interested in sharing my own opinion rather than listening and seeking to truly understand the other person. That means I am often a fool! That is a sobering thought.
So how about it – are you more interested in sharing your opinion than listening to and seeking to understand the other person? While someone is talking are you listening intently or are you already preparing your “statement”?
Be wise as the Lord would have us be – be more focused on understanding than having to share your opinion.
“You can learn something from anyone, even a fool, even if the only thing you learn is how not to be a fool.” – Louis L’Amour. Now I am not sure if that quote is exact, but it is how I remember it. Growing up, the western and historical novels by Mr. L’Amour taught me much about our country and its people, about courage and sacrifice, plus much more. Some of his quotes have really stuck with me such as the one above, especially the ones having to do with leadership.
A key question for you – Are you teachable? We all know about the dizzying rate of change that is just a fact of life now. We know that as leaders we are to be learners, but that is more difficult than it first appears.
Sometimes things are moving so fast, that if an area of our life / work seems to be ok, we don’t want to make any changes. Sometimes we don’t have time (at least we think this) to stop and learn something new. And there are people that in our minds we believe don’t have anything to teach us. This last situation is usually rooted in pride for often the very people we need to be listening to are in the most obscure “boxes” low down on the org. chart. Often times these are the people closest to a situation and are the very ones who have the best input, but we don’t listen to them to our detriment.
So, be teachable. Be willing to seek out the advice and counsel of people, no matter what their title or position. To not do so limits us as leaders.
Learn something new today from someone you normally don’t ask advice of – you might be surprised by what you learn.