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do you see? do you hear?

September 11, 2017

When you meet someone, or even in your daily encounters with those you know, do you “see” them? Do you recognize them as individuals with dreams, passions, hopes, problems, and fears? Or are you only seeing the veneer?

When they talk with you – do you really “hear” them, listening for meaning beyond their words or even in spite of the words? Or do you just hear what you want to hear? Or do you even hear them at all?

To truly respect others, we need to see them for who they really are and as much as our limited abilities allow us and to actually listen to them with humility so that we hear the meaning behind their words and to not miss what is not being said. We owe that to one another.

By the way, busyness is a lazy person’s excuse for not seeing or listening to others.

BG

Good morning! Getting a bit nippy here in northeast Indiana.

Listening well is a skill and one many of us have yet to master. It is a weakness of mine that God has convicted me of so I am trying to develop this critical skill. Fortunately Ambassador not only places a great value on this skill, they also teach you how to listen.

One tool they have is the four components of effective listening. (click here to read Ambassador’s article on this subject)

  1. To hear is to focus all of my senses on what the speaker is communicating, making it as easy as possible for him to say what he means and to have confidence in my full attention.
  2. To understand is to comprehend what the speaker means. This has nothing to do with evaluation or agreement; that comes later. I should be able to communicate back what they said to their satisfaction.
  3. To consider is to evaluate what difference his input should make in what I feel, think, or do.
  4. To give feedback is to expose how I will consider her input and to express appreciation for it. This can be done immediately, even before I have had time to thoroughly consider all of the implications of the input. Later, I can expose how I have incorporated it into my thinking and what I have done or will do as a result.

Start incorporating these four components into your listening and see how much more effective you become.

Have a great week serving our Lord!
BG