Archives For Self Management

What controls how you respond to circumstances? Your emotions or your beliefs?

You know, we do have a choice in how we respond to the ever changing circumstances of life.

Make that choice!

So, how do you feel this morning?Rose Lauren 2013

Rested and full of energy, mind sharp and clear, refreshed from great relational times with your family and friends, and connected to the Lord? Or are you tired and unmotivated, wishing there was another day in the weekend, sort of groggy and finding it hard to focus, your clothes a little tighter than they should be, and distant from the Lord, family and friends?

Unfortunately, the latter sentence describes most of us on most Mondays. Why? Some of it is our habits. We mess up our sleep patterns by staying up too late and then sleeping late, we eat junk food over the weekend, we plan two days worth of activities for one Saturday, we then don’t have time for a true Sabbath, which all together produces stress which we then take out on those we love most which messes up the whole relational aspect of our lives. And then there is our relationship with the Lord. With the kind of schedules most of us keep on the weekends, it sort of hard to fit Him in.

Here are some thoughts from a lot of different people that might help:

  1. Get enough sleep! Most of us need 7 – 8 hours. Tony Schwartz on his site The Energy Project has a ton of info on this subject. Not enough sleep has as much impact on your thinking as alcohol or drugs – it is a serious issue.
  2. Get moving and exercise! Do regular exercise at least three times a week of at least thirty minutes duration. No, you don’t have to train for the Iron Man or a marathon, but we all need some type of regular exercise. In addition to that, try to do a little something every morning shortly after you get up even if it is only ten minutes of stretching. Just do something to get the blood flowing.
  3. Eat less more often – and eat the right things. Try eating five or six small meals throughout the day. There is a ton of information on the types of food and drink plenty of water. Don’t make coffee and soft drinks your main fluid intake.
  4. Spend time with the Lord – tend to your spiritual life. Set aside a time each day to spend time on this most important of relationships. Make prayer a regular part of your day.
  5. Invest in your family. Next to your relationship with God, your relationships with your spouse and then your children are the most important in all of your life. Cherish and nurture these relationships. Not only will they be blessed, the funny thing is you will too.

It is up to you to care for your health – spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, and relational.

Are you tired of feeling the way you do this morning? If so,then just go and do something about it!

On the journey with you,
BG

Good morning! I hope you had a nice Memorial Day weekend. Ours was nice, but a bit different as neither of our daughters were Flowers by Lauren MAy 2013here for the first time. So, it was nice, but a bit quiet!

You realize of course that you are talking to yourself all the time. On an ongoing basis you are telling yourself about yourself. We were talking about that the other day at work and were picturing as the tape that you are playing in your mind on a continuous basis. That probably shows the age of the guys talking about this subject. Maybe we should be talking about the ongoing podcast about ourselves that is playing in our minds.

We are all telling ourselves about us on an ongoing basis. The problem is, we are often telling ourselves lies. Things like, “How could God really love me after what I have done?”, “There is no way anybody could love me, especially if they really knew me”, “There’s no way I can change, I have been this way all my life”, “My life is not significant – what have I really done?”, “The more I do, the God (and others) will love me” and so on. This ongoing “podcast” of lies about yourself, distort your view of God, others, and your situation. Too often we react based on that internal podcast instead of the truth of the situation.

A good example is that a couple of weeks ago, Angela and I had a “discussion” that messed up our relationship for a couple of days. Early in our marriage we were not as mature as we believed we were at the time (imagine that!). And we had some bad interpersonal habits. Fortunately we have actually matured some and God has blessed our marriage, but one evening she said something and for whatever reason, I played that old “tape” in my head and reacted in the totally wrong way. The old “tape” was wrong, but I listened to it.

We all have these “tapes” or “podcasts going on in our head. We need to stop and think about our thinking. We need to examine what is on our tapes or podcasts in our heads. Are they true? Examine what you are telling yourself against God’s Word. Change where the tape disagrees with God’s Word. If you are unsure about an area, go to some trusted friends and tell them about what you are thinking about yourself in this area and see if they see it in your life. If you are wrong – change the tape!

You can change the tape / podcast in your mind that is continually telling you about yourself. Change it from the lies we often are telling ourselves to what is true according to God’s Word. Some key points to remember – you are created in His image, He loves you and loves you so much He died for you, and He wants an intimate relationship with you – forever. That is a pretty good starting place for your new tape (or podcast) in my opinion.

Have a blessed day,
BG